I was wondering through blogville and hit upon this post from here. I read it and re-read it and re-read it. When I saw the title, I was getting ready to display my women's lib side but found myself agreeing to most of the simply laid out guidelines. (I prefer to call them guidelines, as commandents sound a little too hard).
A lot of marriages would work if both parties took time to be considerate to each other.
I am not in agreement with the latter part of guideline 2, but I have to say that I like this document and count myself lucky to have come across it. It may come accross as old fashioned, even archaic, but our ancestors were doing something right. Divorce rates are way up and we need all the help we can get. Besides, even for the unmarried ones amongst us, if use these guidelines loosely in our dealings with our fellow man, the world would be a better place.
Caveat: This is not to say that I do not think there should never be an OUT if there the ma(rriage is not reedemable.
Enough talk from my end. Read on.
A Wife's 10 Commandments
1. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind; and you shall love your husband as yourself.
2. You shall not make your husband into an idol, but you shall love, honor, respect and submit to him as unto the Lord.
3. You shall not take your husband's name in vain through gossip, slander, criticism, complaint or mockery; but you shall bless him both privately and publicly.
4. You shall work heartily as directed by the Lord and your husband, not by your own ideas of what should be done. You shall not be so busy working that you neglect to get alone with God every day. During this quiet time, you shall pray diligently for your husband. Be willing to put aside work in order to "play" when your husband asks you.
5. You shall honor your mother and father, but you shall not elevate their position or opinions above your husband's.
6. You shall not resent or revile or hate your husband, but you shall grant him grace, forgiveness and mercy and haceed love.
7. You shall not commit adultery, nor shall you think lustfully toward another man; but you shall thank God for your husband and be pleased with him.
8. You shall not steal from your husband. You shall not steal his marriage by threatening divorce. Nor steal his wife by leaving him alone all the time. Nor steal his time by placing unnecessary demands on him. Nor steal his joy by complaining. Nor steal his peace by endless nagging. Nor steal glances from other men by wearing provocative clothes and causing them to stumble. This defrauds your husband of an honorable wife, the other man of pure thoughts, and the other man's wife of her husband's faithfulness
9. You shall not lie to your husband, but you shall speak the truth in love. You shall practice a quiet and gentle spirit.
10. You shall not covet another woman's husband, children, friends, house, looks, wardrobe, possessions, talents and gifts, ministry, or any other thing that is hers; but you shall be content with all God has given to you.
The Path I've Been On
4 months ago
I see you think the same way. I will not have someone who only thinks about submitting to me. I think 'submitting unto one another' or making decisions together is the ideal.
ReplyDeleteThe rules go for the men too.
Hmmm - i read her entire post. It's very quaint and almost surreal. I find it hard to imagine that people actually do live like that. She sounds happy enough. I'm not sure I agree with the rules/commandments but it is interesting.
ReplyDeleteso maybe i'm a bit too 'canadian'.. 'new school' for all of it... but i see sense in some of it... i'm not sure that theres anybody who actually follows all these rules word for word.. but hey watever works fo whoever... i mean i read about a basketball player whose wife rents a bus and follows behind him on all their games.. wont let him be interviewed by females or be spoken to by females when she's not around... i said what the hell when i heard that.. but then i heard they've been together for about 12,13 years and both swear its the way that works for them.. so who am i to say anything right...
ReplyDeleteSurely makes for very interesting reading...just as long as he does unto me as I do unto him, them alls well! ;-)
ReplyDelete@ Azuka: It definitely goes for men too.
ReplyDelete@noni: Quaint and almost surreal describes it really well.
@onb: Is that story for real. Truth really is stranger than fiction. Wharrever works for them. 12/13 years no be joke.
@nyemoni: Yes o! That defnitely goes without saying.
Wow, great perspective. me likes!
ReplyDeleteVery interesting. Quaint.....But with some validity in there as well
ReplyDeleteinteresting read!
ReplyDeleteAs rightly mentioned above by azuka- husbands and wives are meant to submit to each other. It cannot work any other way! (my thots!)
True Talk.....
ReplyDeletenice read.
ReplyDeleteRegarding rule/commandment 2, what does d bible say? I'm sure God knew what he was doing He included that.. I'm not saying men should lord it over their wives but ladies .... I totally agree with d walking / making decisions together but their times when submission is all that is required…